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Anxiety is a common feeling – a normal emotional response. It can help us in fight of flight situations, but it can become a hindrance if the feelings begin to overwhelm you on a constant basis.

When dealing with anxiety, I work with you to identify triggers – exams, work, an argument with a loved one – and then identify ways to reduce these feelings.

Our work involves identifying causes, what makes it better or worse, what relaxes you.

It’s all about learning to manage it and take back control.

We will work on the belief that this feeling will pass by using breathing techniques, learning to think more positively and freeing yourself from unhelpful patterns of behaviour.

Changes in behaviour don’t happen overnight – learn to give it time.

There are many and varied relationships we experience throughout our lives. The main types are Family, Friendships, Work and Romantic Relationships.

At times, we will experience difficulties, and so it is very important to have a solid sense of what a healthy relationship should be.

The essence of a healthy relationship is based on respect, trust, love, openness and compromise.

Our work includes identifying and admitting someone else’s behaviour is making you uncomfortable and impacting on your life.

We also work on methods of valuing yourself in a relationship – what do you expect from it and are you getting these things?

We look at toxic relationships filled with insecurity, dominance and control, and look to helping you form happy, healthy relationships made of kindness, empathy and compassion.

At the very heart of all we do lies our self – esteem – or lack of it.

Self – esteem is a subjective evaluation of our own worth – beliefs about ourselves we hold true due to years of self-criticism from our inner saboteur.

We may believe things like “I am unloved”, “I am not good enough”.

These ingrained ideas are learned throughout our lives, whether from childhood criticism by parents or teachers, or due to ongoing issues such as financial troubles or relationship issues.

Self – esteem is vital – it heavily influences our choices and decisions and dictates our motivation to gain our full potential.

Our work would involve taking stock so we can identify problem areas and then setting realistic expectations. Forget perfection - we focus on accomplishments and also importantly on learning from our mistakes in order to adjust. A huge part of the work is learning to stop comparing yourself to others.